Devastated….
-Love your family and friends with everything in you…
-When your kids are cranky and screaming…take a deep breath and think about how lucky you are that you get to spend another day with them.
-Speak your feelings as if you will never see your best friends again.
Don’t put yourself in a position to have regrets about something you should have said.
Every funeral I’ve been to someone says they wish they had told the person _______- Tell them now!
Funerals are so weird to me. Everyone gets up and says these long speeches, listing everything amazing and loved about the person. Why don’t we do something like this when they’re alive? Like once a year have a “why we love you” ceremony for each member in your family. Invite everyone they know. Have people get up and tell about that persons life up until this point and why they are so very special. The person of honor could just sit there and feel the love:)
Life can be short, life can be long-we have no control over that.
Life can be amazing or life can suck-We DO have control of that!
Get up and do the things you always talk about doing. Realize that every moment is precious and get up off your butt. Turn off the TV and be with someone you love.
Those are words to live by.
To your devastation–there are no words.
As you grieve, we grieve with you.
The Ricci Family
Amen to all this. Life is way too short, and we don't tell our loved ones nearly enough how much we love them.
Much love to you and your family.
Well said! About a year ago friends of mine moved to South east Malaysia to join an organization focusing on ending human trafficking. We had a huge going away party for them and part of that night was spent going around the room and everyone saying what is was that they loved abut these people. We were all crying, but not tears of grief. Maybe partly "I'll miss you" tears but mostly because there is something really powerful about voicing out loud why you love someone and being able to see their reaction.
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Haylie, I agree with you also…it's just hard to live that way sometimes! We're so afraid of being vulnerable, of things being awkward, that we keep our feelings to ourselves. It is such a tragedy that those things only get said once someone dies and they never know how you really felt!! My husband feels that way about your husband's music…it really changed his life. I emailed you his story for this exact reason, so that you guys will be encouraged that his music really does make a difference. Please read it and let it encourage your heart in this time of hurting. May God's peace fill you as you grieve for your loved ones!! Stephanie
You inspired me today Hay!
After multiple losses (husband 10days after our son) I never fail to tell those around me I love them. It's so sad that we cannot look around us and see that we should be kind to each other. And now that my surviving children have grown and flew the nest – the craving and desire to cuddle is still there – but they are WAY to old for that. But you can be sure I tell them. Hold your babies close. Smell their warmth. It comes to an end all to soon. And then you realize your own mom has been through the same experiences. She will never turn away a good cuddle no matter how old you are. The circle of life. Thanks for the rant it was cleansing.